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  • If you want to change ANYTHING on the outside you must look within to your beliefs first. 
Think of beliefs like the motor in a car.  Without the motor the car will  not move.  You need the motor to get the car moving. 
Beliefs drive everything you see and how your react and your perspective like a motor runs  a car. 
Your views,  opinions,  emotions about people,  family, friend and how they show up,  what they do,  what they don't do are ALL based on what you believe. 
You have a belief about everything.  Some are strong and you will be tied to emotionally,  some not so strong. But you well have plenty. 
Some common beliefs are
Life is hard
I need others to love me
The world owes me
People are cruel
I am worthless. 
Choose one of these beliefs you have and think about what implications this has for how you act in the world. How you behave.  How you interact with people. What you expect from life. 
Beliefs underpin everything. 
If negative feelings,  or angry responses come up in a specific situation,  ask yourself what belief do I have about this?

This type of self reflection may take time to unearth the belief.  But I assure you,  the more you reflect and are willing to look within,  you will start to recognise the beliefs you have which impact every aspect of your life. 
Once you recognise them you get to choose which beliefs are worth holding onto and which are worth letting go. 
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  • Do you know that there's a pattern, a series of things you do when you are going through a rough patch? 
Did you also know that this pattern happens almost without you being conscious of it?
If you slowed down the steps your doing when you're  upset you will see how it unfolds the same way every time. 
You'll be able to see that you follow a very tight, well run pattern of how you do difficulty.

This pattern is made up of thoughts,  beliefs,  actions,  reactions,  an inner voice, an inner image.... all comes together so quickly that you don't recognise it. 
The truth is,  if you don't know what you're doing you can't fix it. 
You can change the pattern by slowing down and becoming aware of each step, thought,  action, words etc. 
We all have difficult moments and sometimes  long phases of time where life is difficult. 
If you find yourself in the same pattern then a good way to change that is to recognise what isn't working and try an alternative response. 
Recognise the things you do well,  that helped you get through and practice that again the next time. 
It can take a while to see how we deal with difficulty,  but each time reflect on what worked,  what didn't work,  and make an intention to consciously did more of the things that did work.

Over time you can consciously keep modifying the way you deal with hard times and not struggle as much. 
Focus on the things that work that get you through. 
This could be:
Counting to 10 before responding
Sleeping on something before acting on it
Going for a walk
Listening to music
Think about the other side to get another perspective
Think about what you believe about the event.. does this belief still work for you?
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  • A quick tip for finding your voice again if you've been held back for a long time or perhaps your whole  life. 
Remember out will feel uncomfortable. It will probably even be scary.. but push  past this and keep going.

Start with a sentence
I give myself permission to choose. 
Repeat repeat
And then extend that to specific choices you'd make. 
Start slow and slowly add more into it.
You are worthy. 
You deserve freedom to choose
No-one has any right to take that away.. family,  friend co workers NO ONE
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  • Move forward. 
Acknowledge what's happened in the past.
Recognise if you want to move forward you have to leave the shit behind. 
What can you do now to move on?
Clean the slate.
Make a fresh start 
Recognise you are in control of how you think,  what you think,  what you say and what you do. 
So what is within your control?
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  • You've set your goals.
Now what are you doing about  them?
Old habits can stop us from achieving what we really want.

Identify the habits which you do that keeps you from achieving. 
Some of them may include;
Procrastinating
Delaying
Avoiding
Blaming someone or something
Negative self talk...'I can't do it' or 'It's too hard'
Lack of commitment
Lack of motivation 
Look at your list. 
Which do you do.  Be honest. 
Now write a counter or action  step you can do instead. 
If procrastination is something you do. 
Identify what your thinking when you procrastinate. 
Identify the feelings you have.. you may feel a physical resistance when you're about to embark on an important task. 
Now that you are aware of your #mental and physical roadblocks  you can choose another strategy in  place of it. 
It's about switching the strategy and DOING something different. 
That's how you change habits. 
Repeat repeat repeat. 
Don't let the year go by,  by ignoring your goals and slipping back into old habits. 
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  • This was one of my go to strategies for overcoming crippling #anxiety and #panic attacks and childhood trauma. 
We are what we repeatedly do.

Recognise the things you do that are not working.  That are not producing the results you want and change them... It's a bit like trying to change ingredients in a cake.  If what you're putting in  it isn't producing the cake you wanted then you have to change something in the mix!  You can't expect the cake to turn out if you keep putting in the same ingredients that don't work!

Something has to change. 
The beliefs you have,  the thoughts you think,  the action  you take.... Find out what you can change in the patten.  If it works KEEP DOING IT.
Here's the thing!
Some people need to analyse why or how.. but guess what sometime it doesn't  bloody matter what the reasons may be why you did something,  where you learnt it from,  or who's to blame. 
Sometimes it just takes you to accept that you are a result of what you do and decide to do something different and if it works REPEAT.

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  • Have you taken stock of how much you avoid in your life because of fear?
Do you find that you dream of life being completely different to how it is?
Fear is nothing but a state of mind.
It is absolute trickery. 
It holds you hostage with false narratives and distorted images.
If you truly want anything in life and it doesn't have to be seismic. But if you have yearning desires,  if you have any goals and you are constantly coasting through the years not achieving them then it's time to FACE YOUR FEARS AND SHUT IT DOWN!
How?
Look at it.  What is your fear?
Acknowledge it,  talk with it. Bring it all out and get to the bottom of it. 
If you feel fear and avoid it your not dealing with it and you remain stuck.
Find solutions,  seek where the fears come from and most importantly ACT ON THEM.
THIS IS THE BEST AND MOST EFFECTIVE way to move beyond your fears. 
Treat you fear like an opponent trying to bring you down.  Make it a game a challenge.. it  doesn't matter just do something about it. 
Don't make the fear bigger than it needs to be and this will continue happen if  you keep avoiding  your dreams. 
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  • Great indicators of healing here
I would add
Feeling more at peace with self,  others and those who've harmed you. 
Enjoying life
Feeling like the layers have fallen away and you're living authentically. 
What would you add?
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