Beck Thompson

Speaker. Trauma Recovery

"To truly transform my life

I had to focus on who I wanted to become

and not what had happened to me"

The Other Side of Trauma

Beck's powerful story from trauma to triumph and her unique ability to look within to transform her life will inspire you to face your own pain and empower you to live a life you deserve.

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How I Went From Panic to Calm

I endured six long years of chronic anxiety and panic disorder.
Until I discovered there were specific steps I could take to learn how to bring my life back to calm.
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Yes Please!

Most people who know me, but don't know me enough to 'know' me and my background, wouldn't know that for the past 15+ years I have been a work in progress. I have purposely and with full awareness worked on the parts of me I didn't like, which I knew were a direct result of my upbringing. I've worked on changing beliefs I thought were 'true' because of my childhood. I've worked on learning about how the world works and done everything I could to change my perspective when I knew it wasn't helping me and knew it didn't serve me anymore. I've worked hard to find a new reference and build new and healthy associations for love, self-worth and value. Behind closed doors, I have cried too many tears to count. I have wondered in agony at whether I would ever feel good enough and happy enough to keep on living. I wondered many times over and many nights in solitude whether there was ever going to be an end to the constant suffering I felt. In public view, in the company of many, I had countless inner conversations with myself, about how I was going to speak up, or how I was going to look past my own shit and speak to someone and look confident at the same time. Or try and have fun, like many of my friends were having, when fun was the last thing I wanted or felt like having. Or how I would try and be brave enough just to show up, just so it looked liked I was okay, but inside I was barely hanging on. Many times over I had to learn to stop using my 'abuse story' as a pawn to getting my own way or manipulating my husband, because it's 'not my fault', or 'it's just who I am'. Using my abuse story to excuse the many ways I behaved or treated other people because I simply knew no other way. The work to process each and every single layer that I had in front of me, was daily. It got hard, and then harder before it ever became easy. What I want to make very clear is that for anyone who is struggling to deal with their trauma, or is too afraid to, or hopes for a quick and easy path to recovery (we would all wish for that one), that the journey is long. It is hard. It is at times unbearable. You get angry because it's not fair, that I have to do all the work when it wasn't my fault to begin with. I was the one left with the damage and now I had to pick up the pieces and try and figure out how they all go back together? You get tired of being tired from constantly having to deal with the emotions that come to the surface. It's exhausting work and draining mentally. The work involved is hard and it's long. Trauma recovery is a long road, but, as much as there is pain along the path, there is many joys also. You begin to see things in yourself that you'd never noticed before. You begin to recognise the value in yourself, that was never visible. The resources that are within you, begin to come up to the surface and be employed in your life without anyone telling you how, they just begin to appear. The journey reveals just how beautiful life is and how remarkable you really are. The journey reveals, the strength you have, the courage you have to keep going. Even acknowledging that despite everything you're still here is a moment that I'll never forget, yet it says so much about you and what you're capable of. But here's the thing, the one thing I learned; if you never take that first step to recovery, you'll never find that out these things about yourself, about life, unless you begin, no matter how many people tell you how are worthy you are, or tell you how wonderful you are, you wont believe them, until you find it out for yourself. You wont discover it until you see it for yourself. And there's no other way, than to begin the path to recovery. I believe we're all capable and brave enough to take that step. But we first need the realisation, the understanding that you can do this. Where I am right now, is where I wanted to be; trauma is not a part of my life anymore. I still have the memories, but they don't hurt, they don't debilitate me, they no longer interfere with how I want to live my life. How I want to be present as a wife, mother, person and friend. But I would not be here, as I am now, without taking that first step. Without the resolve of knowing that each time I dealt with a layer, it's done and I can move onto a another layer. I wouldn't be here now, without understanding that the pain would lessen each time I confronted it. Each time I looked a little deeper at what my pain was telling me. Now that I'm here, in this state of peace, love and joy, I cannot put into words how truly wonderful the reward is when you finally discover just how beautiful and worthy you are. A Trauma Recovery Tip: When deciding to take that first step, get help. Recovery takes a lot of support. Find people who are either in your life that are supportive and want to be there for you. Or find someone completely objective and can assist you, either professionally, or someone you look up to, admire and trust. Lifeline is an amazing resource, available 24/7 in Australia Ph 13 111 4

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What people
have said
about Beck

 

To a full room of intrigued audience members, Beck shared her story.  In the most respectful and professional manner, Beck spoke of the complex trauma that she had suffered as a child and young adolescent, at the hands of those who should have been there to love, nurture and protect her but instead – hurt her in unimaginable ways.  She spoke also of the safe haven that was offered by teachers and schools and how this helped to lead to her becoming the impressive, intuitive, empathetic and caring adult and parent that she is today.  Beck is a clear example that trauma-aware thinking and practice in schools is vital – and can lead to students living with the outcomes of complex trauma – having very different life trajectories.  Beck’s courage in sharing her story is impressive.  Yet when you chat with Beck – she is less focussed on herself and more focussed on making a change for others who have been through similar harm.  Beck has reminded us yet again that our children and young people who have lived through this type of trauma are “worth it” and we must continue to adapt our processes in schools to support their recovery and growth. - Dr Judith Howard Senior Lecturer, QUT Australia

"Amazing and courageous" - Kristy, VIC

"Beck is the definition of authenticity. Her story will have you captivated
from ‘hello’ and her courage to share her own story will liberate your own story" - Deb, SA

"You have so much inspiring courage" - Rebecca, QLD

"Beck’s story is one we all need to hear, a real story from the heart
with vulnerability, emotion, strength and an incredibly powerful message
that everyone can take something away" - Warren, VIC

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  • Situations, circumstances happen. In life they're unavoidable and in knowing this it is in your best interest not to try and avoid dealing with situations.. there's no growth in that. But it's more important to learn HOW to deal with circumstances. One of the best things you can do is to to become present and PAUSE create space to then CHOOSE how you respond. This may be difficult to do initially because you've probably just reacted instinctively. If it's a situation in front of you count to 10 and think of something else you can say or do. If it's a text an email.. leave it for a few hours and think your response through. Whatever you do choose to PAUSE and decide on a different response. That's where your growth is. That's where your freedom is. To run your own mind consciously. To be the captain of your ship and intentionally choose how you respond. How you respond is a choice but you need to create the space to choose that. Practice practice practice. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #depression #anxiety #mentalillness #panic #anxious #scared #mystory #improof #mystrategies #choose #growth #healing #dealwithit
  • Awareness is your greatest tool for change. It's a knowing. It's seeing yourself as you appear to yourself and others. It's being able to observe how you show up to people and yourself. It's being conscious of your actions, your patterns, your habits, your thoughts, your beliefs. And the number one thing that becomes immediately available to you when you become aware of something of you that does not serve you.. is CHOICE Once you recognise and can see what you do.. you get to decide if you want to keep doing that or choose a new behavior inline with who or what you'd prefer. That's freedom. That's power. That's growth. ACTION STEP Observe yourself with other people for one day. What do you notice about yourself? Your words, your thoughts, your behaviour, your attitude. Do you like what you are observing? Is this really how you like showing up with people? If not, what would you like to see instead? What would that look like, sound like and feel like? Engage all your senses. Practice implementing in your next interaction with people. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #depression #anxiety #mentalillness #panic #anxious #choice #awareness #mindfulness #change #improof #mystrategies #mystory #childhoodtrauma #abused #unhappy #recoveryispossible #growth #freedom #chooseyou
  • When you know your worth this is so easy to do. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumahealing #traumacoach #coach #iwasabused #selfhelp #selflove #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #courage #respect #knowyourworth #bekindtoyourself #selfrespect
  • A common misconception is that our behaviors make up 'who we are'. As in fixed and permanent. Not true. Our behaviors are a result of environment and early childhood modeling. They are also in response to our beliefs which again are developed from our childhood. The more we practice behaviors the more they are entrenched into our neutral circuitry giving us a strong belief this is us! Behaviors are how we learn to operate and interact in the external world. If you can learn behaviours you can unlearn them. Think of habits you want to change. Hard to do BUT possible. To let go of behaviors that are not good for us we have to acknowledge first that they're no longer good for us. We have to be prepared to lose people who rely on us to continue this behavior and we have to be willing to stick to it even when it feels hard. So what behavior isn't serving you? What behaviors do you exhibit that you're aware on some level perhaps by a gut feeling that you really don't want to continue anymore? To eliminate a behavior first acknowledge it and think of another behavior you could do instead which would be healthier for you. #theothersideofttauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #depression #anxiety #mentalillness #panic #anxious #scared #mystory #improof #mystrategies #mystory #traumacoach #coach #iwasabused #selfhelp #suicidal #improveyourself
  • Wanna get a glimpse into how you really feel about yourself? Then take an honest appraisal of how you treat other people. Your outer world is a direct reflection of your inner world. If you treat others with kindness, respect, honesty, grace, fairness, equality, then that tells me you treat yourself with the same virtues. On the other hand if you treat people with disrespect, hostility, lack of boundaries, blame, criticism, manipulation, dishonesty then they are huge indicators of what you give yourself and think you deserve. If you don't believe you deserve respect whether you consciously or unconsciously believe you don't then it will show in the lack of respect you show others. If you don't have any self worth then you well not treat people like they deserve it either. You cannot give to others what you do not give to yourself. Take an honest look at how you treat people, friends, family, co workers. How do you treat them and this will show you how you feel about yourself. You must do the internal work for it to show up externally in your relationships. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #depression #anxiety #mentalillness #traumahealing #traumacoach #coach #iwasabused #selfhelp #selflove
  • Before I even met you, I knew I wanted you. You were the reason I worked to recover and heal from my own trauma. Every tear. Every exhausting day I spent changing the way I looked at my trauma. Every day I sought to love the little girl within to allow herself to come out and no longer feel ashamed or #scared. Everyday I fought to stay alive I did this so I could have you and love you completely in my life. So I could love you without the scars. You are my reason. I love you completely my girl. And I would do it all again in a heartbeat so you will never carry the legacy of my trauma. So you are free to love and be loved. So grateful. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #mylove #healing #recovery #improof #mystrategies #mystory #traumahealing #healyourlife #generationaltrauma #iwasabused #dontpassiton #traumafree #youcan #sheismyreason #mydaughter #recoveryispossible
  • This is a really hard one for people to do and understand. I think the difficulty is understanding what love means. For most love means sticking by someone regardless of their behaviours, their habits, their tempers etc. You feel an obligation that if you find the relationship toxic or dysfunctional that by you walking away you're the bad guy. But this is where people use guilt to keep you there. But the obvious omission here is you. Your needs. Your right to be treated the way you want to be treated. Your right to be valued and respected. Guilt and obligation to remain is not about your needs at all. Walking away is difficult to do but what you're doing is redefining what love actually means. It's a mutual understanding on both parties to say I love and respect myself enough and I love you but this relationship is not good for me anymore. And if you pay attention to your own needs you will know if you're staying out of guilt or staying because you choose to. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #coach #traumacoach #improof #iwasabused #selfhelp #mentalhealth #mentalillness #panic #anxious #scared #mystory #anxiety #lifeskills #lifetips #love #selflove #value #relationships
  • Trauma particularly ongoing trauma teaches us a specific way of the world. It helps to entrench firm beliefs about ourselves and others and it affects then the way we interact with ourselves and the world. But by consciously choosing to think, act or believe something different we are actively deconstructing the false beliefs and behaviors of our trauma. Day by day the more we actively choose a way that's more in line with reality we strip away the old and replace it with the new. That's how it works. It's a deliberate intentional act to believe the world is good despite what you were taught. It's deliberately choosing to act in a way that shows you are worthy regardless of what our how you were shown that worth. To change and to heal you must consciously choose to think differently, to believe differently and to behave differently. Tip: CHOOSE just one thing to focus on changing at a time. A thought, an action or belief. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #depression #anxiety #mentalillness #panic #anxious #scared #mystory #improof #biography #memoir #traumacoach #healtrauma #pain #recovery #beyondtrauma #healingtrauma