Beck Thompson

Speaker. Trauma Recovery

"To truly transform my life

I had to focus on who I wanted to become

and not what had happened to me"

The Other Side of Trauma

Beck's powerful story from trauma to triumph and her unique ability to look within to transform her life will inspire you to face your own pain and empower you to live a life you deserve.

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How I Went From Panic to Calm

I endured six long years of chronic anxiety and panic disorder.
Until I discovered there were specific steps I could take to learn how to bring my life back to calm.
Join me in learning my exact steps and strategies I used to recover from chronic anxiety and panic disorder.

Yes Please!

Most people who know me, but don't know me enough to 'know' me and my background, wouldn't know that for the past 15+ years I have been a work in progress. I have purposely and with full awareness worked on the parts of me I didn't like, which I knew were a direct result of my upbringing. I've worked on changing beliefs I thought were 'true' because of my childhood. I've worked on learning about how the world works and done everything I could to change my perspective when I knew it wasn't helping me and knew it didn't serve me anymore. I've worked hard to find a new reference and build new and healthy associations for love, self-worth and value. Behind closed doors, I have cried too many tears to count. I have wondered in agony at whether I would ever feel good enough and happy enough to keep on living. I wondered many times over and many nights in solitude whether there was ever going to be an end to the constant suffering I felt. In public view, in the company of many, I had countless inner conversations with myself, about how I was going to speak up, or how I was going to look past my own shit and speak to someone and look confident at the same time. Or try and have fun, like many of my friends were having, when fun was the last thing I wanted or felt like having. Or how I would try and be brave enough just to show up, just so it looked liked I was okay, but inside I was barely hanging on. Many times over I had to learn to stop using my 'abuse story' as a pawn to getting my own way or manipulating my husband, because it's 'not my fault', or 'it's just who I am'. Using my abuse story to excuse the many ways I behaved or treated other people because I simply knew no other way. The work to process each and every single layer that I had in front of me, was daily. It got hard, and then harder before it ever became easy. What I want to make very clear is that for anyone who is struggling to deal with their trauma, or is too afraid to, or hopes for a quick and easy path to recovery (we would all wish for that one), that the journey is long. It is hard. It is at times unbearable. You get angry because it's not fair, that I have to do all the work when it wasn't my fault to begin with. I was the one left with the damage and now I had to pick up the pieces and try and figure out how they all go back together? You get tired of being tired from constantly having to deal with the emotions that come to the surface. It's exhausting work and draining mentally. The work involved is hard and it's long. Trauma recovery is a long road, but, as much as there is pain along the path, there is many joys also. You begin to see things in yourself that you'd never noticed before. You begin to recognise the value in yourself, that was never visible. The resources that are within you, begin to come up to the surface and be employed in your life without anyone telling you how, they just begin to appear. The journey reveals just how beautiful life is and how remarkable you really are. The journey reveals, the strength you have, the courage you have to keep going. Even acknowledging that despite everything you're still here is a moment that I'll never forget, yet it says so much about you and what you're capable of. But here's the thing, the one thing I learned; if you never take that first step to recovery, you'll never find that out these things about yourself, about life, unless you begin, no matter how many people tell you how are worthy you are, or tell you how wonderful you are, you wont believe them, until you find it out for yourself. You wont discover it until you see it for yourself. And there's no other way, than to begin the path to recovery. I believe we're all capable and brave enough to take that step. But we first need the realisation, the understanding that you can do this. Where I am right now, is where I wanted to be; trauma is not a part of my life anymore. I still have the memories, but they don't hurt, they don't debilitate me, they no longer interfere with how I want to live my life. How I want to be present as a wife, mother, person and friend. But I would not be here, as I am now, without taking that first step. Without the resolve of knowing that each time I dealt with a layer, it's done and I can move onto a another layer. I wouldn't be here now, without understanding that the pain would lessen each time I confronted it. Each time I looked a little deeper at what my pain was telling me. Now that I'm here, in this state of peace, love and joy, I cannot put into words how truly wonderful the reward is when you finally discover just how beautiful and worthy you are. A Trauma Recovery Tip: When deciding to take that first step, get help. Recovery takes a lot of support. Find people who are either in your life that are supportive and want to be there for you. Or find someone completely objective and can assist you, either professionally, or someone you look up to, admire and trust. Lifeline is an amazing resource, available 24/7 in Australia Ph 13 111 4

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What people
have said
about Beck

 

To a full room of intrigued audience members, Beck shared her story.  In the most respectful and professional manner, Beck spoke of the complex trauma that she had suffered as a child and young adolescent, at the hands of those who should have been there to love, nurture and protect her but instead – hurt her in unimaginable ways.  She spoke also of the safe haven that was offered by teachers and schools and how this helped to lead to her becoming the impressive, intuitive, empathetic and caring adult and parent that she is today.  Beck is a clear example that trauma-aware thinking and practice in schools is vital – and can lead to students living with the outcomes of complex trauma – having very different life trajectories.  Beck’s courage in sharing her story is impressive.  Yet when you chat with Beck – she is less focussed on herself and more focussed on making a change for others who have been through similar harm.  Beck has reminded us yet again that our children and young people who have lived through this type of trauma are “worth it” and we must continue to adapt our processes in schools to support their recovery and growth. - Dr Judith Howard Senior Lecturer, QUT Australia

"Amazing and courageous" - Kristy, VIC

"Beck is the definition of authenticity. Her story will have you captivated
from ‘hello’ and her courage to share her own story will liberate your own story" - Deb, SA

"You have so much inspiring courage" - Rebecca, QLD

"Beck’s story is one we all need to hear, a real story from the heart
with vulnerability, emotion, strength and an incredibly powerful message
that everyone can take something away" - Warren, VIC

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  • If you want to change ANYTHING on the outside you must look within to your beliefs first. Think of beliefs like the motor in a car. Without the motor the car will not move. You need the motor to get the car moving. Beliefs drive everything you see and how your react and your perspective like a motor runs a car. Your views, opinions, emotions about people, family, friend and how they show up, what they do, what they don't do are ALL based on what you believe. You have a belief about everything. Some are strong and you will be tied to emotionally, some not so strong. But you well have plenty. Some common beliefs are Life is hard I need others to love me The world owes me People are cruel I am worthless. Choose one of these beliefs you have and think about what implications this has for how you act in the world. How you behave. How you interact with people. What you expect from life. Beliefs underpin everything. If negative feelings, or angry responses come up in a specific situation, ask yourself what belief do I have about this? This type of self reflection may take time to unearth the belief. But I assure you, the more you reflect and are willing to look within, you will start to recognise the beliefs you have which impact every aspect of your life. Once you recognise them you get to choose which beliefs are worth holding onto and which are worth letting go. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #depressed #youdecide #anxietytips #growth #maturity #mystrategies #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #depression #beliefs #childhoodtrauma #abused #mindset #changeyourbeliefs #grow #letgo #choose #selflove #traumacoach #healing #improof
  • Do you know that there's a pattern, a series of things you do when you are going through a rough patch? Did you also know that this pattern happens almost without you being conscious of it? If you slowed down the steps your doing when you're upset you will see how it unfolds the same way every time. You'll be able to see that you follow a very tight, well run pattern of how you do difficulty. This pattern is made up of thoughts, beliefs, actions, reactions, an inner voice, an inner image.... all comes together so quickly that you don't recognise it. The truth is, if you don't know what you're doing you can't fix it. You can change the pattern by slowing down and becoming aware of each step, thought, action, words etc. We all have difficult moments and sometimes long phases of time where life is difficult. If you find yourself in the same pattern then a good way to change that is to recognise what isn't working and try an alternative response. Recognise the things you do well, that helped you get through and practice that again the next time. It can take a while to see how we deal with difficulty, but each time reflect on what worked, what didn't work, and make an intention to consciously did more of the things that did work. Over time you can consciously keep modifying the way you deal with hard times and not struggle as much. Focus on the things that work that get you through. This could be: Counting to 10 before responding Sleeping on something before acting on it Going for a walk Listening to music Think about the other side to get another perspective Think about what you believe about the event.. does this belief still work for you? #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #depression #anxiety #mentalillness #panic #anxious #scared #patterns #childhoodtrauma #abused #beckthompson #healingtrauma #beyondtrauma #livingwithanxiety
  • A quick tip for finding your voice again if you've been held back for a long time or perhaps your whole life. Remember out will feel uncomfortable. It will probably even be scary.. but push past this and keep going. Start with a sentence I give myself permission to choose. Repeat repeat And then extend that to specific choices you'd make. Start slow and slowly add more into it. You are worthy. You deserve freedom to choose No-one has any right to take that away.. family, friend co workers NO ONE #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #depression #youchoose #improof #mystrategies #mystory #selfworth #selfhelp #selftalk #selfcare #abuse #control #childhoodtrauma #narcabuse #emotionalabuse
  • Move forward. Acknowledge what's happened in the past. Recognise if you want to move forward you have to leave the shit behind. What can you do now to move on? Clean the slate. Make a fresh start Recognise you are in control of how you think, what you think, what you say and what you do. So what is within your control? #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #startbelieving #makeachange
  • You've set your goals. Now what are you doing about them? Old habits can stop us from achieving what we really want. Identify the habits which you do that keeps you from achieving. Some of them may include; Procrastinating Delaying Avoiding Blaming someone or something Negative self talk...'I can't do it' or 'It's too hard' Lack of commitment Lack of motivation Look at your list. Which do you do. Be honest. Now write a counter or action step you can do instead. If procrastination is something you do. Identify what your thinking when you procrastinate. Identify the feelings you have.. you may feel a physical resistance when you're about to embark on an important task. Now that you are aware of your #mental and physical roadblocks you can choose another strategy in place of it. It's about switching the strategy and DOING something different. That's how you change habits. Repeat repeat repeat. Don't let the year go by, by ignoring your goals and slipping back into old habits. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #depression #goals #coach #selfaware #selfhelp #selflove #traumacoach #healing #trainyourmind #youcan #youdecide #anxietytips #growth #maturity #mystrategies #choose
  • This was one of my go to strategies for overcoming crippling #anxiety and #panic attacks and childhood trauma. We are what we repeatedly do. Recognise the things you do that are not working. That are not producing the results you want and change them... It's a bit like trying to change ingredients in a cake. If what you're putting in it isn't producing the cake you wanted then you have to change something in the mix! You can't expect the cake to turn out if you keep putting in the same ingredients that don't work! Something has to change. The beliefs you have, the thoughts you think, the action you take.... Find out what you can change in the patten. If it works KEEP DOING IT. Here's the thing! Some people need to analyse why or how.. but guess what sometime it doesn't bloody matter what the reasons may be why you did something, where you learnt it from, or who's to blame. Sometimes it just takes you to accept that you are a result of what you do and decide to do something different and if it works REPEAT. #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #youdecide #anxietytips #growth #maturity #mystrategies #mystory #improof #mindset #gratitude #healing #dealwithit #peace #healing #beyondtrauma #livingwithanxiety #anxious #breathe
  • Have you taken stock of how much you avoid in your life because of fear? Do you find that you dream of life being completely different to how it is? Fear is nothing but a state of mind. It is absolute trickery. It holds you hostage with false narratives and distorted images. If you truly want anything in life and it doesn't have to be seismic. But if you have yearning desires, if you have any goals and you are constantly coasting through the years not achieving them then it's time to FACE YOUR FEARS AND SHUT IT DOWN! How? Look at it. What is your fear? Acknowledge it, talk with it. Bring it all out and get to the bottom of it. If you feel fear and avoid it your not dealing with it and you remain stuck. Find solutions, seek where the fears come from and most importantly ACT ON THEM. THIS IS THE BEST AND MOST EFFECTIVE way to move beyond your fears. Treat you fear like an opponent trying to bring you down. Make it a game a challenge.. it doesn't matter just do something about it. Don't make the fear bigger than it needs to be and this will continue happen if you keep avoiding your dreams. #fuckfear #beyondtrauma #livingwithanxiety #anxious #breathe #faceyourfears #depression #disorder #takeaction #improof #mystory #mystrategies #youdecide #fear #scared #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #justdoit #feelthefear #coach #lifeskills #lifetips
  • Great indicators of healing here I would add Feeling more at peace with self, others and those who've harmed you. Enjoying life Feeling like the layers have fallen away and you're living authentically. What would you add? #theothersideoftrauma #trauma #traumatotriumph #anxiety #panic #lifeskills #lifetips #mentalillness #changeyourbeliefs #youcan #disorder #healing #beyondtrauma #livingwithanxiety #anxious #breathe #healingtrauma #bepresent #believe #free #release #childhoodtrauma #abused mindset