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  • True. 
You have absolute choice.
You have so much power to choose how you think,  what you do and how you live your life. 
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  • To be able to stand back and choose your response to those who have hurt you requires a lot of growth. 
It shows that you can stand firm in who you are without the need to retaliate in haste.
It is a powerful message to the other person that says. 
I know who I am and I will choose how to respond.  You will show them who you are by your response. 
You have choices.  And whatever you choose you have to sit with. 
Some good questions to ask yourself are 
What will this response say about who I am?
Will I be able to look back and be proud of how I responded? 
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  • I love this photo.  It was taken 6 years ago.  But would you know looking at this that I was also dealing with chronic #anxiety and #panicattacks? 
When I look at this pic it reminds me of so much that I was struggling through at the time. 
My husband worked away.  We had moved our young family interstate with no family support and I was doing everything I could to maintain normality for my 3 beautiful young children. 
Getting out with my kids were some of the most difficult days.  My nerves would burn up.  My legs felt like concrete.  I was petrified I was going to collapse in a #panic attack in the middle of the street or out on public. 
The amount of slow breathing and non stop self talk I had to do was incredible and completely exhausting. 
But it was important for me to continue to do the normal things with my kids. 
I'd often come home after just a couple of hours and collapse because it just took everything out of me. 
But I'm grateful that I stuck it out for the sake of my kids.  They were my driving motivation to keep going and wanting to overcome my #anxiety
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  • Learn from your experiences.  Take  that lesson into the next obstacle. 
The only reason it feels difficult is your belief about how life SHOULD be is on direct conflict with what's ACTUALLY happening. 
If you can recognise that shit happens in life and learn to face them and take the lessons you learned from each situation.. it gets easier each time. 
Work on getting better at handling life. Build your skills for dealing with stuff.
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  • We could eliminate a lot of stress in our lives if we let go of ideas beliefs and images about how people SHOULD show up in our lives. 
See resentment is having a belief about how the other person SHOULD behave. Based upon results,  the image or belief is false. But resentment is our way of maintaining a belief and/or image that WE ourselves have created about that other person.
It doesn't destroy them it actually affects is. 
So how can we get rid of the resentment? By changing the image or belief we have about others and accepting that people are imperfect and we do imperfect things. 
We can then add to the belief we have
Friends are always honest.....AND SOMETIMES THEY'RE NOT. 
Waiters are always friendly...AND SOMETIMES THEY'RE NOT
Doctors are always on time...AND SOMETIMES THEY'RE NOT. 
Partners are always supportive AND SOMETIMES THEY'RE NOT 
Resentment is not based on others actions but on your reaction to their actions.
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  • Life is a journey.  Just as our bodies change so too should our minds, thoughts,  patterns,  beliefs. 
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  • You cannot be who you want to be without taking steps and making decisions AS IF you are already exhibiting these traits you want to adopt. 
Take anger for example.  If you really dislike this trait and you'd really like to be more calm.  Then you have to decide to start to practice being calm as the calm person you'd like to be. 
Plan and prepare yourself. 
Be aware of what you allow to trigger you first so you have it prepared.  Is it a person, situation, place that triggers this emotion?
Then work out how would a calm person behave in this situation? 
Be as prepared as possible. 
The point is that if you want to BE something different.  If there's behaviors you really don't want anymore than you have to act and make decisions AS IF you are that person with those qualities, traits etc. 
This is the same for wanting to be more trustworthy, honesty,  respectful, organised, friendly,  etc. 
Try one at a time. 
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  • Sometimes the very thing you think you need isn't given because there's something else better planned. 
I know it's hard to see sometimes.  Especially when you had your heart set on something. 
But this is where faith and trust is so important. 
To look outside yourself and see the bigger picture. 
There is always a reason.
Be patient and trust the process that everything aligns for your own good. 
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