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  • Pain is often the pathway to #growth. 
We learn the truth about life  when we can look at what the pain is telling us. 
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  • You don't overturn struggles, fears and mindsets overnight. 
That's totally unrealistic. 
Repeated  behaviors and emotions and beliefs attached to those behaviors take time. 
If you notice it being hard and keep going that's a wonderful thing called AWARENESS.

Acknowledge it's hard bit also acknowledge that it takes time. 
As you take time notice the small changes in your thoughts your attitude your #mindset your behaviours.

You will get to where you want with persistence. 
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  • I knew what my vision of healing looked like. 
I had such a clear picture, therefore I knew when I would feel like Id reach my healing  goal.
But my path will be completely different to yours and many others and that's completely ok. 
If you focus on what others are doing then you're not working and focusing on you. 
Your healing journey will feel right to you and again that's ok. 
Who is your competitor? YOU
Who are you trying to impress? YOU

Focus on you. 
This is your journey and yours alone. 
There is no one else to compare  to judge to criticise to persuade to condemn. 
This is your life and you need to heal in the wet that feels right for you and that is it.

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  • Sharing how I move past my fears so I actually do the very thing I want to do. 
Acknowledge the physical feelings the resistance 
Tell myself that it's ok
And move fwd anyway. 
It's a process that requires faith in knowing you'll be fine
It takes many times to reduce the intensity of the resistance you feel but it will improve if  you keep at it. 
There are strategies to push past your fears but they don't work if you don't use them. 
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  • Breathing is powerful in bringing you to the present. 
When you focus EXCLUSIVELY on the breath you cannot think about  anything else which puts the monkey mind to rest. 
Practice breathing to reduce #anxiety,  #panic,  obsessive thinking

Focus ONLY on the sound and feel of the breath
As you do you are training your mind to stop the cycle of obsessive thinking which is what causes the physical symptoms of distress. 
Start by practicing for a minute and gradually increase your time. 
Remember re training your mind takes time.  So avoid any unrealistic expectations.

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  • This was a huge discovery for me. 
It helped me to know that no matter how  much it hurt, how painful it was,  that I could survive it. 
That each time I bravely sat  with pain it got easier knowing I would be ok. 
Here's my top tips for self care when pain arises;
- If you can,  block out the day and rest. It's exhausting work processing plain. - do something nice for yourself.. have a bath,  listen to music,  go for a walk,  watch a fav movie,  treat yourself to something, have a warm drink,  yummy to eat
- speak kindly to yourself,  let go of judgment,  criticism,  expectations and just allow what comes up,  to come and go
- be proud of what you've achieved big or small.  It's not easy to face your pain,  so be proof of your willingness to face it
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  • If you want to change ANYTHING on the outside you must look within to your beliefs first. 
Think of beliefs like the motor in a car.  Without the motor the car will  not move.  You need the motor to get the car moving. 
Beliefs drive everything you see and how your react and your perspective like a motor runs  a car. 
Your views,  opinions,  emotions about people,  family, friend and how they show up,  what they do,  what they don't do are ALL based on what you believe. 
You have a belief about everything.  Some are strong and you will be tied to emotionally,  some not so strong. But you well have plenty. 
Some common beliefs are
Life is hard
I need others to love me
The world owes me
People are cruel
I am worthless. 
Choose one of these beliefs you have and think about what implications this has for how you act in the world. How you behave.  How you interact with people. What you expect from life. 
Beliefs underpin everything. 
If negative feelings,  or angry responses come up in a specific situation,  ask yourself what belief do I have about this?

This type of self reflection may take time to unearth the belief.  But I assure you,  the more you reflect and are willing to look within,  you will start to recognise the beliefs you have which impact every aspect of your life. 
Once you recognise them you get to choose which beliefs are worth holding onto and which are worth letting go. 
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  • Do you know that there's a pattern, a series of things you do when you are going through a rough patch? 
Did you also know that this pattern happens almost without you being conscious of it?
If you slowed down the steps your doing when you're  upset you will see how it unfolds the same way every time. 
You'll be able to see that you follow a very tight, well run pattern of how you do difficulty.

This pattern is made up of thoughts,  beliefs,  actions,  reactions,  an inner voice, an inner image.... all comes together so quickly that you don't recognise it. 
The truth is,  if you don't know what you're doing you can't fix it. 
You can change the pattern by slowing down and becoming aware of each step, thought,  action, words etc. 
We all have difficult moments and sometimes  long phases of time where life is difficult. 
If you find yourself in the same pattern then a good way to change that is to recognise what isn't working and try an alternative response. 
Recognise the things you do well,  that helped you get through and practice that again the next time. 
It can take a while to see how we deal with difficulty,  but each time reflect on what worked,  what didn't work,  and make an intention to consciously did more of the things that did work.

Over time you can consciously keep modifying the way you deal with hard times and not struggle as much. 
Focus on the things that work that get you through. 
This could be:
Counting to 10 before responding
Sleeping on something before acting on it
Going for a walk
Listening to music
Think about the other side to get another perspective
Think about what you believe about the event.. does this belief still work for you?
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