Is living in the past keeping you from living in the now?
Often we unconsciously refer to a painful event in our past like it was yesterday. What that’s saying is that you haven’t worked through the pain and feelings associated with that event. So consequently you keep living it out as if it were present tense.
So what can you do to move on?
Work through the pain by addressing the unresolved issues surrounding it.
Be brutally honest with yourself and your feelings about the event. Don’t hold back. If you’re angry then get angry, get mad, be unapologetic in the way that you feel about the event. Too often people believe they have to sensor the way they deal with it. But by owning your truly feelings to the event you’re being open and honest and real, thus allowing yourself to heal through the process. There’ no growth in being pretentious about it.
Ask yourself questions about the event. How did it make you feel? Did I deserve it? Can I change it? Why does it hurt me so much? Write down your thoughts and feelings about it or scream it to the wall or look at yourself in the mirror and have the conversation with yourself.
Keep processing it until the pain and hurt is reduced so much that you no longer associate hurt and pain with it and therefore truly setting yourself free. Like I said it’s a process. The feelings you have attached to the event have been there so long that it will take time. By understanding that walking through the pain is a process you’re less likely to give up and continue to hold it in.
It’s important to be kind to yourself during this time. xx