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Boundaries and Releasing Judgement

January 20, 2016 · Issues, My Strategies, My Thoughts

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beck.thompson

Thriving AFTER Childhood Trauma
Author, Speaker, Teacher, Presenter

You will know your tribe, your people who belong i

You will know your tribe, your people who belong in your life.
Family or otherwise, they are the people who genuinely want to see you grow.
They are respectful of your needs and boundaries as you begin to strip away the old you.
They get that growing and healing are a part of life and are not offended or act childish at the change in how you relate, or things you no longer wish to engage in.
They love you and admire your willingness to leave old habits, move on from things that do not serve your truest self.
They don't hold grudges because you aren't showing up the way they remember you.
They love seeing the new more healthier and happier you and are not at all threatened by the changes you have made.
When you know you can show up without fear of judgement, fear of being disrespected, without fear that your boundaries will not be well received, then you KNOW you have found the people that belong in your life.
They are the stayers, the people in your life for the good, bad and the ugly.
These are your people.
#trauma #traumarecovery #growthandhealing #boundaries #growing #newyou #childhoodtrauma #findyourtribe

As someone who's lived through complex childhood t

As someone who's lived through complex childhood trauma, chronic anxiety, ptsd, depression and panic attacks, I've been in the receiving end of a tonne of advice over the years.

Generally people mean well.

The advice that has hurt the most was from people who had absolutely no lived experience of trauma or mental illness.

The type that give you fluff advice like:
Why are you so afraid?
Just get on with it.
You shouldn't feel like that.
Why don't you just do it.
You're overthinking it

You often walk away feeling like there is something permanently wrong with you.
You beat yourself up with self sabotaging thoughts, further embeddeding hopelessness.

Thankfully, I realised THESE people were not the people to go to for any support or advice.
They do not understand the complexities of how trauma can overwhelm our entire sense of self or rob us of that confidence we 'SHOULD' just have.

Please walk away from the people. They do more harm than good.

Find people who, even if they don't understand they try to. They listen. They empathise. They offer support.
They are you people.
#findyourtribe #ignorantpeople #abused #traumasupport #illadvice #livedexperience #childhoodtrauma #chasingnormal #traumamemoir #iwasabused #emotionalneglect #mentalhealthadvice

It takes a lot of healing and recovery from the th

It takes a lot of healing and recovery from the things that hurt deeply particularly growing up, to learn not everything said or done is designed to hurt you.

Trauma often puts us on high alert to ANY perceived slight. It takes us back to the moment in time. So we're not responding to the now but the trauma of the past.

To recover and heal we need to slow down.
To notice where are mind goes and learn to bring our awareness to the now.
Notice what's happening in the body.
And respond to the present.

It is a practice.
#trauma #neuroscience #traumaresponse #traumahealing #healfromabuse #healfromtriggers

No matter what you do to avoid or compensate, your

No matter what you do to avoid or compensate, your troubles will still be there.
You cannot outrun, nor earn enough money on the planet to wish your troubles away.
Be brave enough to sit with your troubles. It's the only way to free yourself.
#brave #courage #trauma #recoveryispossible #listen #innervoice #innerchild #traumamentor #childhoodtrauma

Yes! We are not stuck. We just have to think new

Yes!
We are not stuck.
We just have to think new thoughts and dare to dream things we never imagined.
Don't allow the now to cloud new beginnings.
We can move forward.
We can heal.
We can do new things.
We have to let the old go first.
#traumas #traumarecovery #healingtrauma #healinginnerchild #newyou #newthoughts #youfuckingcan

Family hike to Gorge Falls. Just gorgeous. #famil

Family hike to Gorge Falls.
Just gorgeous.
#familytime #treks #goldcoast #awareness #presentmoment #natureislife #lifereset #healinginnature #reset #thisislife #awayfromsuburbia #feelalive

All you really need to pay attention to is how you

All you really need to pay attention to is how you feel around people.
Do you feel loved and valued?
Do you feel safe?
Do you feel calm?
#trauma #nervoussystem #fightorflight #dysregulated #yourtribe #belong #selfworth #boundariesarehealthy #toxicfamilies #toxicrelationships #traumarecovery

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