You are now one step closer to transforming your life from trauma to triumph, just as I did.
I believe that we all have the right to have the best life that we can possibly live. Not just for ourselves but for our families, relationships and future generations.
Sometimes though, the pain we suffer from a past event can hinder our lives and keep us bogged down in a life of pain. We become so accustom to living from our pain that many of us don’t even realise the wounds we still harbour from our past. Wounds that inhibit us, that keep us from living our lives authentically.
But I’m excited to tell you that there is absolutely a way out of this.
How do I know? Because I have been there! I have suffered through enormous personal torment, and been suicidal, from the 7 years of sexual abuse I lived through and have come out the other side, loving my life, myself and the relationships I have with my husband, my children and friends.
I no longer carry the pain of my past. I no longer feel scared to think about or go back to my past. I no longer suffer with depression or acute anxiety or panic disorder.
I love myself, forgive myself and believe I am worthy beyond measure.
To get to this point was no quick fix or an easy path. I had to do a hell of a lot of work on myself. I had to challenge beliefs that I was taught or had formed from my upbringing. I had to confront a lot of my fears of unworthiness and self-hatred. I had to face the frightening uncertainty of not knowing who I was, or what I was good at, or even what I was capable of.
I literally had to rebuild my identity and in the process, I had to learn to love the person I was.
The work I did on myself was done with next to no money, or support from family. So if you think you need to have a large sum of money or the best most expensive help in the country, forget that, you don’t!
But most importantly, what you do need is a desire to change and commit to do things differently so you can heal and move on from your trauma.
Are You Ready?
So if you’re ready to change your life from this moment on and be absolutely 120% committed then read on to discover 3 critical steps I took to heal from the pain of my abusive childhood.
I did say that my transformation was not a quick fix. So what you’ll discover from what I learned is not a magic pill or a magic wand. Transformation is not instant. It is a process that takes time.
What helped me to transform from a childhood of trauma to a wonderful life I now live, took years of hard work, dedication and a commitment to doing everything I could to become the person I wanted to become; and not a victim of abuse.
My transformation was not achieved through large sums of money. I had absolutely no financial backing. I supplemented anything that cost me money through working.
Apart from mentors that I sought out, I had no family support what so ever.
The strategies I’m sharing in this FREE guide is exactly what I did to transform my life. So I know they work and I absolutely believe that if you commit to them also, they will work for you too.
So the great news for you is, that even if you don’t have a lot of money, or support (now you have me!), you can still achieve the same results, because most of what I teach you, will come from your determination to transform your life. And that is FREE!
So no excuses ok?
Your FREE 3 step guide to transform from Trauma to Triumph
- Admit that you’re in pain and not where you want to be in your life.
Doctor Phil famously quotes over and over – You cannot change what you don’t acknowledge.
You’ve probably also heard many times that the first step to solving a problem is to admit you have one.
If you cannot and will not admit that things are not how you want them to be, or admit that you’re not at your best, then how can you ever expect to change? Denial is a common solution for many people. If they avoid what they’re really feeling then they don’t have to deal with it. And they don’t take ownership of how they’re feeling they don’t have to admit it’s their problem.
But the moment you are honest with yourself and admit that life is not working the way you want it to, begins to release the pain, the hurt that you’re carrying, this is where the process of healing begins.
So to truly transform your life it starts with being open and honest with yourself about how it really is for you.
You simply cannot move on, if you’re in denial about how you feel about yourself, the perpetrator and/or the painful event/trauma you experienced.
Write down how you truly feel. Be raw. Be honest.
Get out all the ‘it’s not fairs’, I never deserved this, etc etc
You can do this by journaling your thoughts and feelings, by having a conversation with yourself or someone you trust and feel comfortable with or all of the above methods.
What method you choose is not so much the point, what’s important is that you admit that you’re not happy, that you’re hurting. This is the very starting point to recovery.
Know that it's ok to let it out...notice too, how you feel when you acknowledge it.
You want a better life right? And deep in your heart you know how you want your life to look. Part of the journey to recovery is focusing on WHERE you want to be and WHO you want to become. So in order to create your ultimate life, you need to start imagining it, with all the bells and whistles. This is where visualisation comes in to play.
Visualisation is a powerful technique where you intentionally set up a mental image in your head of how you want your life to be.
It brings the deepest desires of your heart to the conscious mind. When you focus on this image frequently, your behaviours and actions intuitively follow this desire to see it come to fruition.
Not convinced? Look up visualisation on the internet and books, there are a plethora of stories others have shared of their visualisation success and scientific evidence to back it up.
Albert Einstein called visualisations the coming attractions of your life.
In fact sports coaches all around the world use visualising techniques with their athletes to help them get into the mindset of being a winning athlete by getting them to visualise themselves running their race. You see because the mind can’t tell if what you’re imagining is real or not.
When you visualise your subconscious mind goes about finding a way to achieve it, because it believes what it’s fed.
Try this exercise:
On a sheet of paper, write down the following;
(Be as specific as you can)
- What does your ideal life without pain look like?
- What kinds of friends do you want? How do they act? How do they treat you?
- How do I want to see the world?
- What does your house look like?
- What leisure activities do you want to do more of or start doing?
- What do your relationships look like, with your partner, your friends, your children?
Once you have been as specific as you can, find a quiet spot and begin imagining all the things you’ve created. See it clearly as a picture or movie in your mind.
Put yourself in the picture and see yourself living your ideal life, accelerates it.
The key to visualisation and experiencing the benefits of it, is to do it on a daily basis.
This was one of my defining strategies to moving from trauma to triumph. My focus was always on becoming who I wanted to be. I would fill my mind with images of every possible detail of my life; the kind of husband I wanted, the clothes I would wear, the house I would have.
Everything that I visualised over a period of time has come to pass. So it absolutely works!
- Find a Mentor
A mentor is a person or friend who guides a less experienced person by building trust and modelling positive behaviours. A mentor is someone who would exhibit the kind of behaviours, and beliefs that you would like to exhibit. It can be someone who has faced several challenges themselves and can offer advice and support as you face your own challenges. It’s usually someone you admire and respect. Someone you look up to, who’s lived and learned.
Mentors help you and guide you. Especially if you are trying to build skills and learn new strategies for coping with life. They often have a more healthier, realistic view on life because they’ve been through things themselves or had role models of their own.
Mentors also help to change your reference point of how you view the world. It’s often difficult to see the world any other way, when you’re so use to seeing and experiencing life another way.
So arrange to make time with this person on a regular basis with who you can talk openly and honestly with.
Use your time to ask questions, perhaps specific to a particular problem you’re facing.
You can find a mentor by visiting your local church, or approaching an older trusted friend or many organisations that help support and nuture people.
It’s always important that when finding and using a mentor that you feel supported and not judged.
Of course you don’t have to have just one mentor. You might like to have a few different people in your network and that’s absolutely fine. The more people that
you feel you need to help, guide and support you, the quicker the process of recovery will be.
Let me be your mentor
I offer mentoring services also, where you get to work with me one on one and I get to share my 20 + years of experience in overcoming my own challenges.
To book a FREE 20 minute session with me, visit my website at www.beckthompson.com.au.au/mentoring and fill in the form to get you started.
Remember healing and recovery is a journey and there is no fixed time on how long it will take. It’s just important to focus on the end result. Where do you want to be and who would you like to become? As you peel back the layers, you’ll more than likely experience some very painful days, but this is all a part of the journey of healing.
When you have these days when you feel unbearable pain, these are the days to implement self-care. Be completely selfish and do something for yourself, something you enjoy, catch up with a friend, take time out etc. Just take some time out to look after yourself.
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